JUST SAY NO
Mum-to-be sparks debate as she bashes ‘parents nowadays’ as ‘just weak’ and ‘lazy’ asking ‘what’s wrong with saying ‘No’
And the different types of parenting styles
AN expectant woman shared her controversial opinion on modern parenting techniques.
She explained that she didn't like the "lazy" approach most people take when discipling their children.
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In her post on Mumsnet, one unnamed user asked if she was being unreasonable to think that "parents nowadays are just weak."
She described most parents as "soft and incapable" when it comes to disciplining their own kids.
The poster explained that she often witnesses children "doing what they want, screaming, [throwing] tantrums, and wanting stuff" while their parents act helpless.
"When I go on the Tube, kids [are often] screaming and putting their dirty feet on the seats," she wrote.
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She also referred to the picky eating habits of children that would not have been allowed in the past.
"At home, kids not wanting to eat and parents act like they own a restaurant and immediately cooking something else," she explained.
"What's wrong with saying NO, 'keep quiet,' or 'you eat what's available.'"
She pointed out that parents should be allowed to take time to themselves without their children having a meltdown.
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"Why are parents constantly trying to keep kids entertained and spend a fortune on stupid activities?" the Mumsnet user asked.
The poster pointed out the effect this can have on the children in the long-term.
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"Worst thing is that I see young colleagues [aged] 18 or 19 years old coming to work [who] are just incapable of being a human," she said.
"[They are] constantly late, [we] have to think about their feelings and emotions, [we] can't even complain to HR when they're not doing their job properly."
The woman explained that she planned to take a different approach with her children.
"I'm about to be a mom myself and if I need, I will discipline my kid with firm approach non of that 'let them express themselves' crap," she concluded.
However, Mumsnet users were not in complete agreement with her post.
What kind of mum are you?
- Tiger mum: A parent who expects first-time obedience, excellence in every endeavour, and a child who never talks back.
- Helicopter mum: A parent who steps in to prevent their child’s every struggle. They are over-involved in every aspect of their child’s life.
- Bulldozer mum: A parent who pushes all obstacles out of their child's way. This style may foster entitlement or narcissism in a child.
- Free-range mum: A parent who believes their role is to trust their child. They equip them with skills to stay safe and then back up.
- Attachment mum: A parent who believes strong emotional and safe physical attachments are essential to the child’s personal development.
"Totally agree. When I was a child screaming was not allowed. Now I never hear a parent trying to stop their child making unacceptable noise levels," wrote one reader.
"I'm in my 40s and completely agree with you," said another commenter.
On the other hand, some parents pointed out the issue with this point of view.
"I mean it depends on their age I suppose but lots of people would consider [your approach to be] pretty lazy parenting too," commented one person.
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"Let's bring back corporal punishment," another reader wrote sarcastically.
"Return once you've had your child and they have reached at least toddlerhood," said one parent.
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