I’ve fallen for a man after my girlfriend cheated on me – but his wife won’t leave him
DEAR DEIDRE: AFTER my girlfriend cheated on me with her ex boyfriend, I decided to explore my bisexual side.
I’m a 32-year-old male and my ex is 30. We were together for two years, but after she deceived me, I decided I’d had enough of women.
It felt like the right time to explore my sexuality.
So I met a man in his early 60s after he messaged me on Grindr.
We met at a pub and had a couple of drinks – we really hit it off from the start.
Then he confided that he’s married with grown-up children, but separated.
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We went back to my place and had sex.
It was weirdly mind-blowing and I loved it. We have been away for a long weekend.
It is exciting having an affair but now we have fallen for each other.
The challenge is we are both in the closet and as he has children my age, I imagine it will be difficult.
Still we really want to be together.
The problem is his wife won’t divorce him.
He wants a fresh start with me, but he says we can’t move forward until he gets his divorce.
I have said he can move in with me. I really want us to be together, but the logistics are against us.
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DEIDRE SAYS: You only have his word that he’s separated, and that his wife won’t agree to a divorce.
You can’t know for certain. It might be news to her.
Nothing’s going to change without divorce proceedings starting.
He hasn’t told anyone about his sexuality and if his children are a similar age to you, then it might be more complicated than just his wife refusing a divorce.
Meanwhile, you are not in control of your life. How long are you willing to go on being the other person in his life?
You could be waiting a long time and missing out on other opportunities.
My support pack Bisexual Questions will help.
